Self Compassion Is An Art Unto Itself

If you’re going to be thinking, you may as well think big.

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I hate to admit this but I finally figured out the most important thing I am missing in my life is more compassion for myself. I’m already off on the wrong foot by not wanting to admit the deficit. If I had more compassion for myself I would know it is a necessity not a choice. This Container Project is a perfect example. I have fallen short of my goals leaving me feeling frustrated and miserable.

We are human. We will encounter limits, frustrations, and loss. To open our hearts and accept this is part of our human condition is to have compassion. Self-compassion is neither self-esteem nor self-indulgence. Self-esteem is our sense of self-worth and perceived value based on our success or failure. Self-indulgence is over-the-top decadence regardless of need.

Self-compassion comes from within and is always available. It offers greater clarity on life circumstances because inadequacy, suffering and failings are accepted with kindness and support. When kindness is the reality, emotional equanimity is experienced.

With self-compassion, I understand things I labeled indulgences like good food, a long nap, or a costly exercise class are imperative to restoring and refreshing my body. I allow myself to be an imperfect and vulnerable interbeing. I take a balanced non-judgmental approach to my negative emotions so my feelings are neither exaggerated nor suppressed. Knowing that I am worthy of kindness, I forgive, accept, celebrate and love me.

The Container project lesson: The Container is not about things. It is not about accomplishment. It is not about things outside of our control. It is about a process, awareness and overflowing compassion. I am my Container.

Published by SilkQuilt

Pittsburgh-based fiber artist, Louise Silk, creates art that combines aesthetics and functionality with meaning and memories. From the influence of a 1972 MS Magazine article to the current SILKDENIM label, her quilt experiences culminate in a display of her particular capacity to use her patchwork skills to piece together just about anything into an aesthetic meaningful whole.

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